For example, you can keep tabs on each one of your children. Does keeping information about your children sound a bit cold? Then let me ask you: Do you remember your child’s latest report card? If so, how does it compare to the one before? Finding none, she screamed in horror. Emergency vehicles arrived within minutes. Patty was too hysterical to respond to the medics. A fireman cut her seatbelt away, and she felt herself being removed from the car onto a stretcher. She was surprised at the biting cold and momentarily confused about what month it was. Why is it so chilly? Someone put a heavy blanket over her, pulled it up to her chin, and light rain pelted her face. Patty stared at the fog-encircled streetlight as the gurney gently bumped toward the ambulance then seemed to elevate and collapse at the same time as the medics slid her into the bright light and warmth. Some time later, Patty was determined to be physically stable; regardless, she refused to leave the scene to be checked more thoroughly at the ER. Certain individuals might require a more formal sleep study in a laboratory. These tests include a number of extra sensors and usually have cameras that monitor your sleep. They can even use an EEG, which are wires on your head to measure your brainwaves. The EEG confirms exactly when you’re asleep and can determine your sleep stage (NREM vs REM). For the vast majority of people, the simple at-home oxygen monitor is enough to diagnose sleep apnea. It’s easy and usually covered by insurance.
If you suspect that you might have OSA, just go to your doctor for an evaluation and sleep study. Let’s look at some treatments for OSA. The most exciting news in sleep health is that you now have the power to test yourself for sleep apnea. There are some great devices on the market that monitor your breathing and oxygen level. If a child is overly emotional or reactionary, they might become labeled a problem child and even be given special educational treatment, or put into different classes as a result of their sensitivity, when really they are just overly affected by other people’s emotions and internal/external dramas. We don’t know a lot in our culture about how to identify or treat the empathic child, and we could do well to engage those qualities and help them thrive, rather than consider it an issue. As the empath gets older, they can learn new information about their own mental and emotional experiences that may lead them to discover and identify that they are an empath and not an overly sensitive person with emotional problems. You may not yet know if you are an empath, but so far you have learned what neurological and psychological factors can contribute to that foundation being built. Perhaps you have identified strongly with your own childhood experience giving you an opportunity to develop empathy in more ways than one. There are significant qualities and characteristics that can help you identify if you are an empath, or just capable of being empathic. Either way, you can improve your empath skills and abilities in new ways as you look further ahead into this guide. The next article will offer a more detailed understanding of what the empath is sensitive to and also what gifts they can possess. There are a lot of noticeable traits and qualities, and you can decide for yourself with this information, just how empathic you actually are. Whenever someone talks about being an empath, you might notice that they describe some of their issues–like having a lot of exhaustion, always feeling tired and drained, or being really indecisive about how to handle certain social or personal issues. We are constantly `reading’ other people’s thoughts, feelings and intentions through their body language and, of course, they are doing the same to us. People who have high emotional intelligence are often very good at reading the signs. It’s called kinesics. Getting good at it is largely about awareness. We all know that crossed arms and legs read as resistance, bad posture as apathy, no eye contact betrays a lie and fake smiles don’t crinkle the eyes – but it’s whether or not we are picking up on this that counts. Using the example of poor posture – it’s not whether it’s good or bad that counts, but how it reads.
How do we interpret it? Getting good at reading body language can improve communications, help relationships run more smoothly and ease our progress through most paths in life. Each day, pick one person, a stranger, and really look at their body language. Someone on a bus or train is good. He started logging his daily weight on Twitter every day to see if that would help. It didn’t. Finally, he realized that only three things really change behavior: having an epiphany, changing your environment, or taking a small step. Based on these last two principles, Fogg created the Tiny Habits Method, an easily accessible mental model for self-discipline. Fogg’s Tiny Habits Method is centered around making one tiny step toward one colossal goal one day at a time. Sounds silly, right? But it works. When adhered to, this mental model creates long-lasting, long-term results, by changing behavior in tiny increments, as the name suggests. The first step is a little bit like the First Principles mental model we learned about through Elon Musk. First, we’ll think about the outcome we want to see (for Fogg, it was losing weight). What event did your child ask you to attend? Do you have it written down? Remember the last meaningful one-to-one conversation the two of you had? What was your child’s main concern? You see, children remember all interactions with their parents. Unfortunately, we as parents are often preoccupied and inattentive.
Keeping a separate section on each child can always remind us of the essentials. Naturally, your personal financial affairs will also benefit from this system by allowing you to refer at a glance to all your investments, insurance policies, and the like. Now, do you really need a journal or a project article to get by? Of course not! She watched through the ambulance windows while firefighters maneuvered her tiny car away from the semi. As they used a scissor-like tool to cut away the crushed metal that had been the passenger door, a horrible realization invaded the blurry edges of Patty’s understanding: the firefighters were not in a hurry. She knew from taking his pulse that Michael was dead–Wait, no, that can’t be right. Why aren’t they being more careful? That big tool they’re using could. They need to be careful or else they’ll. No, this can’t be happening. I am going to wake up any minute. Moments later, the micro-car resembled a shredded tin can. The firemen stepped away from it. They can even monitor your brain waves. While many of these devices are not FDA approved and may not be as accurate as a sleep test you’d get from a specialist, most are quite good. I support their use because I suspect that most people lack the motivation to get off their duff go to their doctor for an exam. You can order these devices from the comfort of your own home. They ship them to you and most are easy to use. The manufacturers will even help you interpret the results.
If you have sleep apnea, your next step would then be to go to your doctor for treatment. To be clear, I’m not suggesting that you use your own sleep test instead of going to see your doctor. I just don’t want you to have OSA without realizing it. You need a diagnosis so you seek treatment. If you are an empath, you may already be familiar with some of the ways you get distorted in your energy and emotions when you are around certain people or in certain situations. Not all empaths feel this way when they are experiencing their gifts, and those folks who are simply good at being empathic, in general, may not have any issues of this kind because they are not regularly absorbing other people’s feelings; they only understand the person’s state of mind through their own feelings. Being a true empath requires a bit more intention when it comes to providing yourself with your own emotional support and guidance, as there can be a lot of common ailments, issues, and sensitivities that can arise for you if you happen to be an energetic and emotional sponge. Additionally, there are some wonderful gifts that come along with this skill–and when you are able to maintain a balance, master your emotions and stay focused on the truth of being an empath, then you can enjoy the gifts and monitor the sensitivities so that they don’t get out of hand. So, what are some of the sensitivities of being an empath? How do all of these things manifest for an empath anyway? It seems like a lot of problems for someone who has the gift of being naturally empathic, however, if you are wired to read and absorb other people’s feelings, you are always doing it, constantly. This makes it hard for you to understand the end of their feelings and the beginning of yours and if you are not mentally and emotionally equipped to handle that reality, you end up carrying all of these unwanted feelings and emotions around with you on the energetic level. This is what can lead to such severe illness and fatigue, as well as what can make it difficult for you to be in large groups of people, or certain sensory experiences. How are they holding themselves? Are they open or closed? And then really hone in on the detail. Notice the little gestures. What do they tell you about the person? Trust your instinct.