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Thanks to the plethora of other illnesses that can co-exist alongside borderline personality disorder, BPD can often be difficult to identify and diagnose. While borderline personality disorder has immense destructive power for both sufferers and their loved ones, the good news is, it is treatable. In part two of this article, we will address numerous ways BPD can be treated and managed, allowing sufferers and their loved ones to live their lives to the fullest, with minimal degrees of stress and conflict. The Traits of Borderline Personality Disorder As mentioned in the previous article, people with borderline personality disorder often also suffer from other mental illnesses, including issues with anxiety, eating disorders and substance addiction. BPD has many symptoms in common with illnesses such as bipolar disorder, often making it difficult to distinguish and diagnose. What’s Keratosis Pilaris? Those little blocked, spot-like buggers you’ll find on the backs of your arms and legs. KP is usually found on the back of the arms but it can manifest itself on any part of the body. In appearance, it looks a bit like pixelated skin; You’re most likely to find it on women and, surprisingly, children! If keratin is overproduced within the pore, it can become trapped there, rather than moving outwards with the shedding dead skin cells as it usually does. This causes a `traffic jam’ within the pore, leading to keratosis pilaris. Unfortunately, this tendency to overproduce keratin is passed on from generation to generation, meaning that if you have keratosis pilaris, you have it for good. Taking Vitamin A and omegas orally could be the step you need to add to your life to banish the bumps! It is believed that Vitamin A may have a hand in correcting the keratinisation process, stopping the follicles from becoming plugged in the first place, by actually slowing down the rate in which the skin gets rid of dead skin cells due to the skin cells being able to function longer. Let’s take a look at some of the most common symptoms and traits associated with BPD: Difficulty Regulating Emotions: Perhaps the most recognizable trait of borderline personality disorder is the sufferers inability to regulate and control their emotions. People with BPD will often act out in ways that may seem out of proportion to the situation, or seemingly unprovoked.

Intense Emotions: People with BPD will often react to a situation or event in a way that seems disproportionate to what is happening. They are prone to rapid and violent mood swings and can fluctuate between states of intense happiness to crushing depression in very short spaces of time. Sufferers of BPD describe the disorder as an emotional roller coaster. Heightened Sensitivity to Criticism: People suffering from borderline personality disorder are prone to taking criticism very badly, often taking offense and acting out in response to even the smallest piece of disapproval. Identity Disturbance and Distorted sense of Self-image: People who suffer from BPD often have trouble making sense of their own identity. They often find it difficult to pinpoint their likes and dislikes, passions, beliefs and values. They are often unsure about their long term goals, particularly with regards to employment or relationships. Glycolic acid is keratolytic meaning it softens keratin and helps the body to shed dead skin cells. For this reason lotions and treatments that contain glycolic acid can help, as can salicylic acid which dissolves the plug of dead skin cells and exfoliates the skin. Lactic acid is also highly effective. Hydration and skin health is also key for keratosis pilaris so many find sanctuary from KP in vitamin-enriched lotions and ones that contain hyaluronic acid. KP is one of the most common conditions out there, and probably the reason that Irish women love cardigans so much; What about particularly dry/scaly legs? Very dry, scaly skin on legs is a sign of a deficiency of essential fatty acids. Boost them through taking supplements and eating more fish, nuts, seeds and oils. If it’s an ongoing issue and happens in patches, take yourself to the GP as it could be a more serious skin issue, especially if it’s itchy and causing you pain. Cellulite is, perhaps, the biggest concern most people have when it comes to full body skin concerns. As a result, people with BPD often feel lost or empty, with little sense of direction. BPD can also cause one’s self-image to rapidly fluctuate between healthy and unhealthy. Manic efforts to avoid abandonment: Perhaps the thing that BPD sufferers fear the most is abandonment.

This is often due to the trauma they experienced as a child, which led to the condition. In an attempt to avoid abandonment, BPD sufferers will often go to extremes to avoid being abandoned, such as ending a relationship or friendship at the first sign of trouble. In this way, they avoid abandonment by being the ones to end the relationship. Black and white thinking: Also known as splitting or all-or-nothing thinking, black and white thinking refers to an inability to reconcile oneself with the both the positive and negative aspects of a situation or person. People who think in such a way will generally see a situation as either all good, or all bad, with no middle ground. In BPD, sufferers have a tendency to focus on the negative side of events; For example, a person suffering from BPD may see love and sexuality as lude and perverse, rather than acknowledging the tender qualities of such relationships. It occurs is when fatty packets protrude into the skin’s tissues, causing the dimpled, puckered effect that you see on the skin’s surface. It is not something that can be eradicated or prevented per se – we all have fat on our bodies – literally all of us – and this is what fat may do. It is not something that happens because you are carrying extra weight either. Contrary to popular belief, cellulite is more than normal. It is especially common in women because of their physiological makeup. Women’s connective tissue, just above their subcutaneous fat, has larger openings in it which makes it easier for these fatty protrusions to get through. It is especially common on bums, tums and thighs – which are the areas that are naturally fattier on women. Genetics definitely play a role with regard to cellulite too. Grades of cellulite Grade 1: Cellulite is never visible, even when the skin is manipulated. In the same way that a person with a black and white thinking may see another person or situation as all good or all bad, they will do the same for themselves, seeing themselves as either flawless, or inherently bad. While most people have the ability to acknowledge that two contradictory states can exists at once – ie no one is either all good or all bad, people with BPD are unable to accept the ambivalence of this. Instead, they shift rapidly from one extreme to the other, in order to accommodate their fluctuating emotions.

If they are in a bad state and focusing on a person’s negative qualities, they have no awareness of the same person’s positive traits. Reckless and impulsive behavior: Sufferers of BPD are likely to engage in damaging behaviors such as impulse buying, binge eating, unsafe sex, drug and alcohol abuse and reckless driving. While impulsive behavior is not in of itself necessarily a symptom of BPD, it is the difficulties BPD sufferer face in controlling their impulses that lead to impulsive and reckless behavior. Often, sufferers of BPD engage in reckless behavior in an attempt to either calm the emotional storm inside them, or to wake them from a sense of emptiness and detachment. But this impulsive behavior may not always take the form of something that appears to be damaging. The impulsiveness of borderline personality disorder can also lead sufferers to engage in behaviors such as: Abruptly cancelling or changing plans Grade 2: Cellulite is visible when the skin is pinched or pressed together, but the skin appears cellulite-free when you’re standing upright. Grade 3: The cellulite can be seen whilst standing but is not visible when you are lying down flat. Grade 4: Dimpling and puckering is always easily visible but appears worse when the skin is pinched. What clients hate to hear is that you can never fully get rid of cellulite, but the good news is there are things you can do to improve its appearance, including body brushing and massage. Body brushing improves circulation, helps lymphatic drainage and keeps your skin hydrated. It won’t get rid of cellulite, or really affect it at all, but hydrated skin shows fewer flaws so it will definitely be less noticeable if you’re moisturising. Any cream that claims to actually fix cellulite is lying. A cream cannot get to the dermis, so ignore its siren call. Many also see an effect from manual massage of the areas. Endermologie Lipomassage, which uses suction to stimulate lymphatic drainage and circulation and aids in the body’s own production of collagen, is a good one to try. Unstable Personal Relationships: Thanks to both their difficulties controlling their emotions and their deep-seated fear of abandonment, BPD sufferers will often find themselves in a string of damaging and chaotic personal relationships. We will explore relationships and borderline personality disorder in details in Parts Two and Three. Self-Damaging Behavior: Often used a coping mechanism against overwhelm, BPD sufferers are prone to self-harming, both physically and emotionally.

Examples of this may be sabotaging their own work at school or in employment, rather than facing the stress associated with meeting deadlines, or engaging in alienating behavior in order to drive others away. Often, sufferers of BPD will engage in these types of behaviors in order to gain a little relief from their emotional pain. Of course, this relief is almost always short-lasting and can result in guilt and shame. This leads to a cycle, in which the sufferer then turns to destructive behavior in an attempt to relieve the guilt. As time progresses, self-damaging behavior can become an instinctive and unconscious response to emotional pain. More obvious forms of self-destructive behavior such as eating disorders, substance abuse, self-injury and sex addiction are also associated with BPD. It is estimated that at least 10% of BPD sufferers will attempt suicide throughout their lives. VelaShape, which targets the fat cells directly using thermal energy (infrared light and bipolar radio frequency), also uses mechanical massage and suction. Like Lipomassage, it also helps with lymphatic drainage, circulation and boosts collagen production. VelaShape also uses radiofrequency for tissue tightening and increased circulation, both of which will help to reduce the appearance of cellulite. What else can you do? None of us want to hear this but keeping toned helps to reduce the appearance of cellulite. Aim to work out two to three times per week and have a twenty-minute walk per day. This gets the lymphatic system going and improves circulation. Avoid processed foods. Eating healthy food rich in antioxidants, vitamins and minerals doesn’t help with cellulite directly. However, eating nutrient-rich foods helps our bodies to create collagen to its best advantage and aids skin cells in protecting themselves. Disassociation: Zoning out or feeling as though they are not in the real world is a common trait for people suffering from BPD. Disassociation refers to a disconnect between a person’s thoughts, emotions, behaviors, memories and identity. Disassociation is a common coping mechanism for people with BPD, along with a number of other mental health disorders such as PTSD and acute stress disorder (both of which can co-exist alongside BDP).

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